My youngest daughter – Tess – is heartbreakingly and very worryingly beautiful.  She has long blonde hair, and extraordinarily long legs, which as you can see, she inherited from her mother.

Last year she turned 16 and a few weeks before her birthday, she came to me and announced she would like to hold a party.

Noooooooooo I said.

She was clearly expecting this response.

“What’s the main reason why not?” She asked.

“Well there’s the carpet for starters!” I exclaimed, pointing to our nice oatmeal coloured carpet. “I quite like the colour of it just the way it is.”

“Ok…” she said thoughtfully… and buried herself in iPad land for a while.

When she came back, it was to show me something she’d found on Amazon.  It was a huge black sheet of plastic, the kind we use for a damp proof membrane.

“It’s great mum. We can tape it down with Duct tape all round the edge, and it’ll party proof the carpet. I’ll even pay for it.”


“Well there isn’t just the carpet to consider…” I said.

“What else is there?” She asked expectantly.

“Well, there’s the fact that we only have one bathroom, and it’s upstairs.  I’m not having a load of teenagers traipsing up and down my stairs, availing themselves of the bedrooms and spilling drinks everywhere.”

“I’ve thought of that,” she said.  “I’ve asked two boys from the year above me at school to act as ‘stairs police’. They will stop people taking drinks upstairs and make sure only one person at a time goes up to the bathroom.”

“What else?”

“Well there’s the neighbours…. We can’t upset them.”

She knows fine well that we only have two, and they are each a field away. But she said, “I know, I’ll go and speak to them both and reassure them that we’ll be turning off the music by 11pm, and everyone will have gone by 11.30pm.”

“Anything else Mum?”

I was sure if wracked my brains I’d find another good reason why not to have this party… I just needed some time….

So Tess had her party.  The carpet was fine, the stairs police did their job well, and the neighbours were happy.  Tess and her friends even cleaned up before going to bed, so it was nice and tidy for me to get up to the following morning.

In planning her party, Tess had been audacious, tenacious, and absolutely determined not to take no for an answer.

I recognise these traits. I started my business as a single mum with 3 kids under 10.  I too had had to be audacious, tenacious, and absolutely determined not to take no for an answer…..

You get the daughter you deserve…..

I was invited to join a mastermind membership club recently. The fee was a significant investment but the benefit to my business would be huge.

I admit I was dithering over the decision, and Kevin – the leader of the group – told me “Sam, I like to work with people who are action takers.  If you’re not ready to take swift and decisive action, then perhaps you’re not ready for this group.

“But” I protested, “I AM an action taker!”

“Oh good,” he said. “I’ll sign you up.”

I was reminded of this conversation when only last week, I was talking to an agent – let’s call him Donald. He was telling me about his biggest business challenge right now.  “I have way too many fence-sitters”, he said. He has some beautiful properties on his patch, which is in Cornwall. Barn conversions, farm houses, pretty cottages. He was getting invited out to lots of market appraisals, but the sellers wouldn’t make a decision, and this would drag on and on with follow-up calls and second and even third visits. “I don’t mind if the seller says yes or no; I just want them to make a decision.”

“So when you give them the market appraisal and explain your fee, what do they say?” I asked.

“They always say, ‘I’ll think about it’,” and then I don’t hear from them again.

“Well the good news Donald, is that I can help you.  I have a proven step-by-step strategy to get sellers off the fence and down on the yes side or the no side. So you can stop wasting time on those people who may never be your clients, and get on with helping those sellers who will. “

“That sounds just what I need!” said Donald.

I told him the price, he said that was within budget.  I told him my availability, which suited him.

“So would you like to go ahead?” I asked.

“I’ll think about it”, said Donald.

You get the clients you deserve.

We want clients who take swift and decisive action, be appreciative of our efforts, forgiving of our errors, and who actually value and follow our advice.

We need them to communicate clearly any concerns to us and pay us gladly and promptly when the time comes.

But in order for us to attract clients like that, we have to be that kind of client ourselves.

So the next time you get a bill, pay it as quickly as you can.   And do it gladly, in appreciation of the value it has brought to you.  Your clients will do likewise.

If you’re experiencing a problem with a service, communicate your concerns to the suppliers clearly.  Your clients will do the same for you.

Agents tell me frequently that their clients don’t listen to advice, that they ask for their input, but then they don’t follow it.  These are the same agents that ask for my advice on how to increase their social media following, or improve their website, or create more valuation appointments…. then ignore my advice and carry on doing exactly what they’ve always done.

I was talking to a friend and having a moan.  “I’m really struggling to get my clients on the phone”, I told her.  “Even when they’ve booked a call with me, they either show up late, or even not at all.  They are completely disrespecting my time. It’s really annoying.”

“You know, you’ve been pretty difficult to get on the phone recently”, she said. “I’ve left a couple of messages and sent you a few texts, but got no reply.”

“But I’ve been really busy with this new launch, and training, and a ton of travelling….” I tailed off.

“Ok, I get it.” I said. And I did. In order to attract clients who are contactable, and available for a phone conversation, I too have to be that person.

You get the clients you deserve because you teach them how to treat you.

To get great clients, you have to BE a great client.

Birds of a feather flock together.

Eagles don’t hang out with pigeons. If you want to attract eagles, you have to be an eagle.

You’re not asking someone to pay for a transaction; you’re asking someone to invest in advice.  Possibly the best property selling advice they have ever received in their lives.  You’re asking them to put faith, energy and money into the advice you give.

But when was the last time you invested in advice? When was the last time you invested time, effort or money in yourself?

Then why should they? If you don’t believe in self-investment, your clients will only ever see your service as a commodity, and they will only pay a transactional fee for that.

You don’t see any fat fitness coaches, do you? They wear the proof of their self-investment all the time. If you saw anoverweight, unhealthy fitness coach, would you pay for him to be your coach? How much faith would you have in his ability to get you off your comfy couch and out running in the rain?

People are a great mirror.

There are many,many agents out there who want to attract great clients, but it’s a little too comfy on that couch.

Want clients to get off the couch and sell their house? Get off the couch yourself.

Want clients who take action? Be an action taker.

Want clients who will recommend you to their friends? Be always on the lookout for ways in which you can give valuable referrals.

Want clients who will trust your expertise and follow your advice? Get a coach! Then you’ll really understand that client-adviser commitment, how it works and what both parties have got to put into it to make it a really valuable relationship.

If you want clients who love the whole business of selling their home and moving on, then you have to, too.  See the process as an exciting adventure and your enthusiasm will be catching.

I know agents who are lazy, bitter, dishonest and think that the world owes them a living.  I bet you do too. Guess what kind of clients they attract?

Inflate, don’t deflate. Emotions are contagious.

I have a lovely client, let’s call him Rupert. He’s a real teddy bear.  50 going on 90.  He wears short-sleeved check shirts with hand-knitted tank tops and tweed ties.  He has a gentle manner and apologises a lot.  Old ladies absolutely love him.  That’s why he gets all the retirement properties and probate cases in his area.

But these types of properties don’t bring him enough business to ever be able to retire.  At the time we were talking, he only had 6 properties for sale, all of them bungalows.

“What kind of properties do you want Rupert?” I asked him.

“Ooo I’d love to get my hands on some nice big family homes”, he said. “Families move more often.”

It seemed that the lovely Rupert with his handknitted tank tops wasn’t the agent of choice around the yummy mummies in the town. But he was the only valuer in the office, so what could he do?

Rupert had a lovely lady in the office called Karen, who was his admin assistant.  Karen is a very attractive lady in her early thirties with two primary school children.  She works school hours so she can pick her kids up. She’s friendly, enthusiastic and knows every single school gate mum in the town.

“I have an idea”, I ventured. “Let’s train Karen on how to do market appraisals!”

“Hmm…. Not sure about that”, said Rupert. “I like to do the market appraisals myself.  I don’t think Karen would be very good.”

I thought, well she couldn’t be worse than him…

I put in a proposal to him to train Karen in how to do a market-appraisal, not Ruper-style, but yummy-mummy-style.

Rupertsaid no.

The last I heard, Karen had left to join another agency in the town that recognised her ability to sell to yummy mummies.  And Rupert still only has 6 properties for sale. And they’re all bungalows.

Because you really do get the clients you deserve

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